One year of marriage down...a lifetime to go! When I meet someone for the first time and they discover I'm married with a five year old and a 9 month old puppy, I usually get a look followed by a million questions. I recognize that a lot of young women aspire to marriage but feel like they’re on a never-ending journey to find ‘The One’. But if it happened for me, it can for you too! So here I am. Hi, my name is Sheila! Dance Mom, Wife, Dog owner, Writer, Caregiver...The woman who wears many hats! Oh, and did I mention my Husbands personal secretary? AKA Mrs. Get her done!
Recently, I had the pleasure of attending a conversational sip & paint event. The event was designed to have a variety of young black women meet, paint, sip, and converse over topics relevant to our everyday lives. I found myself in the hot seat when the question asked was if we believed a woman could "have it all"---the man, the career, the white picket fence, be a good cook, pull out all the stunts in the bedroom, etc. Of course, everyone naturally looked at me to answer first since I was the only married one in the room (oh how I hate when that happens---just kidding). The first word that came to mind was BALANCE.
My husband and I have been together since we were kids, just shy of a decade. As you can imagine being in a relationship isn't anything new to us. Marriage has definitely been the happiest, chaotic, thrill with a dash of emotions to say the least. I think this first year has taught us both that it's impossible to give 100% to every aspect of our lives, while simultaneously meeting each other's needs. He has his schedule, and naturally, I have mine. He has his 9-5, his art, and a side hustle too. We've got the kid, the dog, the bills, the house and the list never stops! At the end of the day, we find that the simple things please us like daily words of affirmation versus countless hours of intimacy that we honestly don't always have time for.
All in all, this year has been an amazing journey! It's truly comical when people have this preconceived notion that because we've been together for so many years that our life is ruled by routine and boredom. Well, so far, we haven't endured that chapter in our marriage. I'm sure if you're reading this you're thinking "girl please, y'all are still in the honeymoon phase." I beg to differ. As I mentioned earlier, our marriage is fairly new, but our responsibilities have remained the same. Our devotion to one another, love, respect and honor continues to prevail.
Since the day my husband proposed to me I've been shown the highest honor. It's hard to explain but he finds ways to surprise me through exploring deeper depths of our love---depths I didn't even know existed. Depths I find myself reciprocating unknowingly. Okay, y'all I'm getting deep now and I'll save that for another article. Honestly my first year of marriage has taught me more about myself and who I truly want to be, more than any other time in my life. There truly is something about sharing your fears, hurts, joy, dreams, and goals with your soul mate. Sure there are days where I'm so overwhelmed with life I have to have a glass of wine or two, but I wouldn't trade it for the world! So cheers to my first year of marriage and a lifetime to go......
Article by: Sheila Odom-Gibbs
Sheila is the newest contributor to #TeamPretty. Beauty Expert, Fashionista & newly married relationship columnist giving advice to us single girls aspiring to marriage!